Jennifer Lopez isn’t here to feel sorry for herself.
And she doesn’t want you to either.
More than a month after she filed for divorce from Ben Affleck, the actor opened up publicly about the breakup for the first time in a profile for Interview magazine.
“If you want something more perfect, you have to be perfect,” Lopez told comedian Nikki Glazer, adding:
“You have to be good on yourself. I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And this summer I couldn’t help but think, ‘I have to leave home and be on my own.’ I didn’t. I want to prove that I can do it. ”
Lopez never mentioned Affleck’s name during the sit-in.
However, she does make some explicit references to her divorce while focusing on her own healing and self-confidence.
“I think all my life I’ve been saying I’m enough, and now I find myself here. I admire myself,” the singer continued.
“I’m saying to that little girl growing up in the Bronx, ‘You did a really good job.’ I hadn’t done that in so many years.
“And right now, given everything that’s happened in my life, my relationships, even my career, I guess it’s just, give yourself a little bit of comfort and love.
“We have been through a lot of things that none of us know about, but you persevered and refused to give up or get discouraged.”
In fact, Lopez has been divorced three times.
However, she and Affleck seem to be very close.
“There’s something to be said about this, because things can really change your life and you want to give up and say, ‘Damn, this is too hard, I don’t want to do this anymore. ” continued Lopez. “But I’m not there. I refuse to deny myself everything this girl deserves.”
Amen, J. Lo!
Prior to this interview, Lopez had made little mention of her recent breakup, only posting occasionally on social media.
Lopez said being a mother to 16-year-old twins Max and Emme with ex-husband Marc Anthony, and recent projects such as the film Unstoppable, have helped her come to terms with personal heartbreak. Ta.
“This Is Me…Okay, and with the project you mentioned earlier, I felt like, oh, I’ve arrived here. I’m fine,” she said. “When I finished all my work and saw where I was, it felt like my whole world exploded.”
Lopez filed for divorce from Affleck on August 20 after two years of marriage. She set their separation date as April 26th and cited irreconcilable differences as the basis for divorce.
“Being in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t look for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself,” she said, adding that she has no regrets about marrying Affleck. No, Lopez continued.
The superstar is not currently looking for a new partner and concluded with this message:
“I know that everything written and said about me and all the assumptions made about who I am as a person is not who I am. I learned that a long time ago.
I know I’m a good person. I know I’m a good mother. I know who my friends are. I think my friends know who I am, my mom, dad, and everything else.